How long would you hold onto a dream? Would you believe that one finally materialized for me after 20 years?! After years of pitching the idea to different people, things finally came together when I least expected it.
Right place. Right time. Right person. Sometimes, that’s all it takes. Yet most people today expect instant results. When they don’t see things happening at lightning fast speed, they’re ready to call it quits. They give up not knowing that success was right around the corner.
I’ve noticed that many local entrepreneurs quit after one year. Few last more than five. As for musicians, many flock to Nashville assuming that they will be instantly discovered. However, if you’ve listened to any of my podcast guests from Nashville, you’d discover that it takes years of patience, persistence, playing at different places, and connecting with others.
Tip #1: Regroup and reset your mindset! It takes more than passion to move your dream forward. It takes determination and it takes a whole lot of faith and trust. You may just need to give things to God. If you’re pushing constantly with no results, it’s time to take a step back and get out of the way. That’s when things finally began to open up for me.
Tip #2: Don’t be too proud to ask for help! Sometimes the right person who can help you is right in front of you. All you have to do is ask.
Holding onto your dreams
So what was my dream? It’s a program that uses the arts to reach at-risk kids. I’d be doing therapeutic drumming to help them reduce stress, blow off steam, and help with any ADHD or learning issues they may be having. It also helps foster cooperation and a sense of community while boosting self-esteem. I have a young artist friend who will be introducing students to drawing, painting, and mixed media. More instructors may be added later.
The seed for this idea was planted 20 years ago at an arts conference for teachers and parents in Boulder, Colorado. I presented a talk on how to reach and teach right-brained creative kids. I was followed by a group of young men who were former gang members. They formed a non-profit and had a center with music and art teachers in downtown Denver. Kids discovered they had talent and they now had hope. They also had a release for all that pent-up anger!
Back then, I was an educational consultant and advocate for gifted, talented, and creative kids. Who would have guessed that, 20 years later, I would find kindred spirits and a place to house this program in North Carolina and I would be the one offering drumming? I wasn’t even a drummer then and had never heard of therapeutic drumming! I’ve since worked with different populations, including disadvantaged youth and adults, and have seen some amazing results.
Tip #3: Be patient! It could be a great idea but just not the right time. It could be that the right combination of people and resources just haven’t lined up yet. God’s timing is different than yours.
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Dori Staehle, MBA lives in the Raleigh, NC area and is the owner of Rock the Next Stage and Next Stage Drumming. She uses therapeutic drumming, coaching, and motivational speaking to help people get unstuck so they can rise up and rock the next stage of their lives. Dori works with kids and adults and often provides instruments for everyone. Dori’s also a best-selling author who is presently working on her second title. To contact Dori, click here.